“What seems to us as bitter trials are often blessings in disguise” – Oscar Wilde
Man listen,
Sometimes we stress ourselves out because we really want things to work a certain way.
Little do we know God has something BIGGER and BETTER for us.
We just got to be patient, and our blessings will come.
Sometimes we wonder why something did not work out.
Until you look at things in retrospect, and see that God was really looking out for you.
You don’t need that person in your life because they are only hindering your growth.
Sometimes we have to cut that dead weight, and realize that if that person isn’t putting in effort to better themselves, its time to hit the road… Jack!
We always want things our way or the high way, instead of letting God handle it.
In reality we should just be focusing on bettering ourselves as individuals.
There is no growth in codependency.
There is no growth in gossiping, or nagging.
Growth comes when you look within, and do what makes YOU happy. Not what makes everyone else happy.
We get so caught up on what people may think about us, not realizing we are stopping our growth for other people.
YOU CONTROL YOUR LIFE. You are the decision maker every single day.
Often times, we give our entire lives to other people. People who don’t even really care about your well being, or your growth.
There have been times when I question why somethings didn’t work. Then I sit and think “Damn this person is still doing the same thing they were doing last year, or the year before, no wonder God took them out of my life.”.
Everything happens for a reason.
Just wanted to let you all know, stop giving your life to other people.
Stop living your life for other people.
Stop wondering what are these people going to think if I decide to jump, and do something out of the ordinary.
A lot people won’t understand your dreams and aspirations, and that’s okay, you shouldn’t want them to.
Sometimes they aren’t even aware of their own dreams and aspirations.
“It took living alone for me to really get to know myself.” – Camila Mendes
Throughout my life I lived with people.
I always wondered how it would feel to finally have a place of my own. A place where I could just be my complete self, with no judgement, or opinions of others.
My little humble abode.
I spoke my desires into existence, and have been living alone for the past two years.
I needed to get my own place in order to learn how to be alone. In order to get to know myself on the deepest levels.
Some of the benefits of living alone are the following:
Silence.
Self Reflection
Do whatever I want!
Living alone also has its cons, like when you get lonely, and have no one around to talk to. Especially on those lonely nights when you want to lay down and cuddle, while watching Netflix.
But truly, in those darkest moments is when you get to know who you are.
At these points you can burn some incense, turn on some smooth mediation music, and just breath. There is no one there telling you can’t do this, or that. You can just be.
If I decided to get up and dance, I could! That is the beauty of having your own.
Imagine never being able to cry out loud, or sing out loud while getting ready in front of the mirror with music playing in the background. That would be DEVASTATING!
When you live with other people, you have to compromise. You have to both come to an agreement on how to decorate the home, when to clean the home etc.
Living alone gives YOU the freedom to decide! If you want to be a minimalist you could be that, and if you want to be a hoarder you could be that too.
Not suggesting that hoarding is good, but you get the point.
I believe everyone should live alone at least one time in their lives.
Imagine always living with people for the rest of your life? Never knowing how it feels to have your own place. Never knowing how it feels to be in your own energy, your own vibe.
That would suck in my opinion.
Living by myself has made me more of who I am. I am more sure of myself. I love being alone and I take my alone time seriously.
I know my likes and my dislikes.. and I will never settle.
Finding Vangie 